Intellectal Intercourse/A Beautiful Mind

Have any of you heard of an "intellectual affair" or "intellectual intercourse"- or is it something I made up in my strange brain? I've spoken about this recently in some depth with someone close to me. I enjoyed the reaction of "oh yes, that explains this experience" more than I thought I would.

Let me just give the thoughts here:

1. You communicate with this person at a higher level than you do with your everyday communications, even your best friends and lovers.

2. As with a physical affair, you get excited at the thought of this person. But the difference is that you recall the person's voice and the thought of that person talking to you in itself gives you chills.

3. You feel compelled to ask this person questions that may incite a deep conversation.

4. You are in sync with this person in strange ways such as lines of thinking and things a simple as breathing in tandem.

5. Words and images exchanged pass through your mind, sometimes in shards that quicken your pulse, distract you, claim you.

6. You find yourself thinking about/wanting to talk to this person when you notice an unexpected detail, an interesting fact, or an amazing story.

7. You find yourself more creatively connected: writing, singing, dancing, etc. as if you have a muse.

8. You feel more sensual, you find yourself sexier than you were before even if you've never made love to this person.

9. Your desire for this person is much more intense than your basic steamy physical affair.

And the oddity of the whole thing is in it's power. These connections, unlike sex cannot ever be casual. Ask yourself (if you absolutely had to choose) whether you'd rather have your spouse cheat on you with body but no emotional or attachment of the mind or cheat on you in the style I've jusst outlined?


-Nichole P Leigh